Friday, February 26, 2016

Sharing is Caring, Right?

We call it the Indian Culture. Certainly it is a more complex concept than what we have made it out to be. I think each one of us has their own perception of it, some of us inflate with pride at the mention of Indian culture, and some are a little upset by its hold on the people's psyche.

Why is it necessary to mention Culture in a matter that will factor in only the family concerned? Because it is hard to be not influenced by the culture we live. We are continuously affected by it and some of the most obvious of our decisions are made for us by the culture we live in.

Take for instance laundry, simple enough? Who does it? The wife or the mother, right? (Keep away your humour for a moment, and your urge to say, "Well, the domestic help does it!") Despite the fact that gadgets have made our life more easier than ever, the idea that whatever little effort it takes to do that, always falls on the women of the household.

But at this point I would say my thoughts do not come out of rebel, my father was always a contributing father. He would cook often, and so does my brother now. The lessons of equality were a given when I was growing up. But what surprises awaited me as I went out in the world?

But it is necessary to speak up, to say you do not agree. In a world that believes a woman, should be seen and not heard, it is not as easy as it seems.

I am a homemaker by choice, I let go my job so that I could look after my ailing father-in-law and then to raise my daughter. I do not look at it as a sacrifice, neither do I judge women who choose to work. Because I know how difficult it is to choose either.

While working moms do get some respite, people cannot cut some slack for mothers who stay home. People assume they have a 24 hour stretch to work from. And God forbid you call it "unpaid job". Yes, it is true that working for your family is not a job you can detach from. But if it about attachments should they not show? What example are we setting for our children who assume that sacrifices are a woman's domain?

One way to change the world for better is to make people happy. While going all out on charity would be great, but why not start at home and make all of the people in our lives happy?

What brought me to discuss this is this initiative. “I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.


No comments:

Post a Comment